Many years ago I received some advice that has stuck with me ever since. I can’t remember now who gave it to me or I would credit them now. Whoever it was simply said,
“Most people ask questions to find agreement with something they already believe rather than looking for a real answer.”
I think about this advice often, but I’ve had a couple experiences over the past few weeks that have reminded me how important it is.
About a week ago, I hired a consultant to give me some business advice. He took the time to figure out where I was, where I wanted to go, and what I was doing right now to get there. He determined what I was doing wasn’t working, so he asked me to make some changes.
Changes that will come with big, exciting announcements in the near future. However, these changes are terrifying.
They will force me out of my comfort zone.
They will put me at some risk.
But the rewards will match the effort required.
I’d be lying if I said I didn’t want to ignore his advice and keep doing the same stuff I’ve been doing for the past few years, but as I started taking action, I continued to remind myself why I sought his advice in the first place.
I needed him to tell me to make some changes and I needed to be willing to make those changes when I heard them. I asked the question. I need to use the answer. I kept reminding myself to stay humble enough to take someone else’s advice and make the difficult changes necessary to grow.
I’m not always so willing to do what I’m told, but this time I’m doing my best to get it right.
The second experience came when a client came in for a second massage and had done ALL of his homework from the previous session. I had given him several exercises and stretches to do and he had done them daily in the weeks between our appointments and his body showed his results. This is super rare, but I’m so excited when it happens.
This client reminded me what happens when you actually take the advice you’re given. If it’s good advice, you’ll reach your goals faster.
Unfortunately, too often we ignore good advice and keep pounding our heads against the wall because it’s too scary to admit we are wrong and need help. As someone that frequently gives advice, there is nothing better than seeing someone thrive with your direction.
I’m not at all suggesting you have to always take any advice you receive. I highly suggest you vet your sources and make sure they are trustworthy. However, when you do find those people you can trust, really ask yourself what you want from their help.
Are you looking for validation of something you already believe? Or do you really want a solution to your problem?
If you ask a question, use the answer. Even if you dislike the answer. I’m confident you’ll be grateful you did in the end.
Yours in health,