It’s okay to say no to people

I’ll spare you any exercise or nutrition advice this week. Instead, I want to share some of the best advice I’ve ever received. Fire the people in your life that aggravate you. This is a very simple idea and makes perfect sense as soon as you hear it, but so many of us have never given ourselves permission to remove people from our lives. It is unfortunate that often times our biggest stressors come from the people in our lives that don’t need to be there.

Everyone knows relationships are vital to a happy, healthy life. Without human interaction, we all go crazy. This is why solitary confinement is such a terrible form of punishment. However, not every relationship is valuable. Some of the people in our lives treat us poorly, add drama, or just get on our nerves. Occasionally, those people are stuck in our lives for one reason or another and we can’t change that, but more often than not, we can choose to spend far less time around those people.

Removing someone from your life might mean being less available on weekends or screening your calls more frequently to limit access. If it’s important enough, you might need to have some form of confrontation which is always super uncomfortable but makes your life so much easier when it’s over. In some instances, you might be forced to take drastic measures and unfriend them on Facebook.

I don’t expect anyone to go through their contact list and start blocking all the people you’ve been putting up with for years, but I would like to encourage you to examine your relationships and make sure they are all supporting you. If you find someone that is aggravating, give yourself permission to change or end that relationship. You don’t need to spend as much or any time with them, talking to them, or being around them. While it’s admirable to not want to hurt someone’s feelings, taking care of yourself should always be your number one priority.

Make sure every relationship you are in is valuable and don’t be afraid to fire the people that aggravate you!